Leadership & Massage 3 - Characteristics

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In the last post, we looked at the power that leaders possess. Here, I’ll take a look at what makes a leader a leader. While there are many descriptions and lists of leadership characteristics, there are a few that seem to be universal.

A Compelling Vision

So where are you leading your followers? A leader has a vision of the future. Something that isn’t here yet, and will take work and time to get there, but is possible. An effective leader has a very clear vision, one that is almost tangible. A vision that offers hope of a better future, a place that others want to be. Nobody wants to follow a vision that takes them to a worse place – although they may be willing to suffer hardship to get to a better place.

Having this vision is central to leadership and directly impacts other essential leadership components such as passion and inspiration. It isn’t enough to just have a loose idea of the future, the vision must be clearly defined and articulated. Write it down as best you can. Try to formulate a simple statement that encompasses your vision. It isn’t a good vision or goal until it’s outside of your head. Which leads us to our next vital component of effective leadership…

O Come All Ye Faithful

Sorry, I couldn’t resist the holiday cheer! But it is a very appropriate statement in this case because we’re talking about communication. Not just communication, but creating the faith in others that they want to follow you. This is why it is so important to clearly define and articulate your vision – you have to share it with others. You should be able to describe it easily to other people. And frequently. As a leader, nobody should have to wonder what it is you’re all about. Why? Because you will tell them straight up consistently and often.

You need to tell people where you are going and if your vision is compelling enough they will join you.

Passion, Enthusiasm, and Optimism

These three go hand in hand and all spring from your vision. When the vision is compelling, it is a source of motivation. Most people, even the extremely unmotivated have little trouble getting started when they are working on something inspiring. It becomes a positive circle in which the vision feeds the action, passion, and motivation and they feed back into the vision. It is hard to get motivated and passionate about a ho-hum vision.

Hope springs eternal and it also is the fuel for the journey. A positive outlook is attractive and draws others into following you. People like to be around positive, energetic people. You need to believe that your vision is possible – if you don’t you need to choose something you can believe in. Think Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh, he was always depressing to be around – not exactly an inspiring figure.

A Plan

Finally, a leader must have a plan. You must know how to get there, or at least a pretty good idea. Your followers want to see progress, action, something being done to reach the goal. The vision can be a prize that can get a person through a rough patch along the way, but if no progress can be seen, if the leader seems to be uncertain, then the followers will begin to lose interest. Have a plan. Create milestones. Chart the progress. Take the time to step back and reflect on how far you’ve come from time to time. Leaders hate to be stagnant and are always changing and reworking things to better fit their vision.

Control

Leaders will not hesitate to enforce boundaries or redirect the course of events to stay on track. The first sign that things aren’t quite going right is the feeling that things aren’t quite going right. Evaluate it against the vision and if it doesn’t fit, redirect. Non-followers can damage your following through negativity. Leaders employ a “healthy surveillance” to monitor the goings-on within their sphere of influence and act accordingly.

Leadership in Context

Just to bring things into perspective a little, let’s take a look at the recent presidential election. In my opinion, Barrack Obama won because he demonstrated stronger leadership qualities than his opponent. Obama campaigned on a vision of hope, restoring American status in the world, a new energy future, and better health care. He was able to convey the hope well and I think that this was the primary reason that he one so convincingly.

In order to keep us engaged however, he’ll have to fill in some blanks and operate on more than just hope. We’ll need to see a plan and the milestones along the way. He’ll need to repeat the vision often and clearly.

Other characteristics that I’ve seen described as essential to leadership are:

1. Sacrifice – This one goes with passion. If you’re fired up about your vision, you’ll go to great lengths to see it through and be willing to put up the time, money, and effort to achieve it.
2. Moral Character – People hold their leaders to a different standard. We expect them to be better than us. Make sure you demonstrate the qualities that your followers expect. A part of this is to “practice what you preach”. Related to this are credibility and honesty
3. Self-Confidence – When you have a clear idea where you’re going, there is a degree of certainty about your actions that creates confidence in yourself and your followers.
4. Emotional Intelligence – AKA empathy, it’s the ability to recognize emotions in yourself and others. Great leaders are able to feed off of, address, and even develop desired emotions in their followers.
5. Desire – You have to want it.
6. Comfort Zone – Ironically, although leaders push their followers outside of their comfort zones in the pursuit of a better future, the leaders themselves create a new comfort zone within the vision. They provide a structure or framework from which to operate. The leaders don’t have this safety net however, and must draw on their own drive and passion to persist.
7. Win-Win Thinking – Leaders get the advantages of power, but they have to bear in mind that following is voluntary and that the power is received at the whim of the followers. In other words, the followers must see the advantage of following. For that to happen, the leader must operate from a position of mutual reward.

Leading & Massage Therapy

Your clients come to you to be led. That’s a part of the therapeutic relationship. It’s up to you to exercise that power in the most effective manner for your client. Pay respect to client-therapist boundaries; to the effects your actions, words, and attitudes can have in either a positive or negative way. Understanding leadership is an important part of leadership.

Where are you leading your clients? Are you on the same page? Are the benefits balanced? Do you have clarity about your vision? Do your followers? How can you use your power for the most benefit? These are all questions you should ask yourself in your massage practice so that you can truly own your role as a therapist… and a leader.

So where are you leading your clients?

Compiled from various sources (Human Relations, Dubrin), (Supervision Today!, Robbins & DeCenzo), (Leadership, Chapman & O’Neil)

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Leadership & Massage 2 - Power

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I know that you didn’t get into the field of massage therapy because you wanted power over people, so don’t get your bonnet in a twist. You do have power, however. A leader’s power is derived from the followers. In other words, they give it to you! There are three different kinds of power:

Role Power

As I mentioned in the last post, power is inherent in the therapeutic relationship. The client has lost power over their condition somehow and is turning to you for help. This kind of power is called Role Power – or the power of your position. You are the therapist and they the client. They have given you power over their healing. As we facilitate the healing, we gradually give their power back, but there will always be a degree of role power in play.

Other examples of roles that are given power (to a greater or lesser degree) are parents, your boss, teachers, police officers, or the president of the United States. Sometimes these roles have authoritative power attached to them – such as the police officer’s ability to have you do something against your will.

Role Power is effective when you need to “lay down the law” such as with enforcing boundaries when someone in your charge has stepped out of bounds. However it becomes less effective the more you use it. It is best to rely on role power only when necessary.

Personality Power

Charisma. Likability. The power of persuasion. This power comes not out of respect for the role you occupy, but because of respect for who you are. Are you courteous, respectful, trustworthy, optimistic, communicative, amiable, welcoming, helpful, and/or a whole bunch of other good things? Have you ever convinced (I won’t say manipulated) a friend or family member to do something they didn’t really want to do but you could get away with it because of your relationship? Personality power in action!

Knowledge Power

People like to be led by others that have the answers. It is a cliché that knowledge is power, but clichés only become clichés when they are true. The more knowledgeable you are about something, the more power others will give you with regards to it. Never stop learning! The more knowledge power you have, the more credibility you will have when you give you clients helpful information.

Use of Power

Obviously we need to wield our power effectively and appropriately. Our job is to gradually give our clients back much of their power. We use our power in our clients’ best interests. That is part of the essence of being a leader – the proper use of the power that has been given them. The most effective leaders apply these different types of power at different times and in different situations, something called situational leadership. There are times where you need to put our foot down and use your role power to redirect the ship. At other times, you convince. Others you educate. Wise leaders learn when to do which.

Next, we look at the characteristics of leadership…

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Leadership & Massage 1 - Intro

Massage Therapy and leadership? What do those have in common? You might say, “I got into this profession to help people, I don’t want to lead them!” But you do.

Why Leadership?

Leading your clients is an unavoidable circumstance in massage or any other healing profession. It is inherent in the therapeutic relationship. They look to you for guidance. In the therapeutic relationship, one person is always in need. They seek out the therapist to address that need. Your clients will have varying needs, some common themes, but they all are coming to you for help. They look to you for guidance, expertise, assistance, and yes, they want you to lead them to their goal. Sometimes a client won’t even know what they want from you, so again it takes leadership to help them to discover it!

Leaders and healers are both involved in empowering their followers.

You steer the ship. You chart the course. You choose the destination. When you allow your clients to participate in the planning, you are still the one that decides upon how to get there. In some ways it can help to envision your massage practice as a kingdom with you at its heart. Your clients are the people who live in your kingdom (just don’t get too carried away with this image!). People choose to live in your kingdom or not, they must have a reason to stay there. You control that for them. No matter whether it is your private practice or some regular clients at your work, your practice (your little universe) is centered around you (take that Galileo!). If you cease to lead, your universe (or massage practice) ceases to be.

So what makes a leader anyway?

Are they born or made? Most sources will say that although some characteristics of leadership come naturally to some people, most leaders are developed. The good news about that is that it means it is something you can learn to do. If you truly want to be successful in your massage business/career, you need to learn to develop these skills.

Even better news for us all is that there is no standard definition of what it means to be a leader. How is that good, you might ask? Because it means that there is flexibility both in how you choose to emphasize your leadership, and on the leadership characteristics that you choose to develop!

Defining Leadership

In my studies, I have come across numerous definitions of leadership. Here are a few to wet your appetite (not my definitions, although I modified a few slightly):

1. “Leaders have the ability to influence others towards challenging goals.”
2. “Leaders bring about constructive change”
3. “Leaders get people to think, believe, see, and do what they might not have otherwise without your presence”
4. “A person with a compelling vision that he/she can communicate to and inspire others with.”
5. “A leader is a conductor, director, or guide”
6. “One who has influence or power”

In a later segment we’ll take a look at specific leadership characteristics, but first, let’s see where leaders get their power in part 2...

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Creating a Safe Space

I just returned from a trip (not by choice) to Ciudad Juarez, Mexico. Murder rates are sky high, crime is rampant and there is a three-way (at least) drug war going on. And the only place in Mexico to get a US resident visa happens to be there. Go figure.

When we got back onto American soil, I had a vision of how it is in the movies - where the hero returns home and kisses the sand of his homeland - and believe it, I understood exactly how he felt. It was good for my companions to have me there, even though as a gringo I stuck out like a sore thumb. And it was against this backdrop that I began pondering the idea of "creating a safe space" for your clients.

I've taught the concept of creating a safe space to my massage students for years. However, my recent experience very much deepened my understanding of it.

Everyone needs to have a safe place to be - to work, to play, to be. Good old Maslow placed safety in second place on his pyramid of needs - second only to physical existence needs like food and shelter. When we exist in a place in which we don't feel safe, our body's natural defense mechanisms kick in. Stress chemicals flood our bodies - cortisol, epinephrine (aka adrenaline) - as our bodies prepare to either flee from danger or to fight it. (More on stress in a later post) When we are stressed, we seek a safe haven to retreat to - a safe harbor to weather the storm and recuperate.

A Safe Space For Healing

Massage can be a truly therapeutic form of healing if this idea is taken to heart. Most of us therapists understand this on some level - Our clients seek us out to find that safe space for healing. This safe space can be physical - such as our office space, a quiet room, seclusion from the hustle and bustle of life outside, privacy. And it can be conceptual as well, like an invisible bubble that shields your client in the same way a physical space can - a blanket of trust, warm and welcoming energy, moral support, encouragement.

You see, all healing takes place when we are at ease. Relaxed, stress-free and safe. Stage 4 sleep. Massage. Studies have shown that we heal at least 50% faster when we are stress-free and relaxed. Interrupted sleep, high-stress jobs, constant activity all interfere with our bodies' ability to cope and recuperate.

One of the most profound benefits that you can offer to your clients is that safe haven. A place where they can go to get away from it all and focus on what they really need - healing at every level, emotional, spiritual, mental, physical. This safe space is one of the most important, yet most intangible qualities about the work we do. It is vitally important to our clients and our success as massage professionals, and it is one of the hardest things to communicate.

Creating a Safe Place

Trust
We all know that it is difficult to relax with somebody that we do not trust. We keep our guard up and remain wary and suspicious. But we also all know (I hope!) the feeling of ease we get when we are with someone we can trust and let down our guard, take off the mask we show the world and just relax. Trust is something that can be granted in a surprisingly short period of time when the stage is right. It is impossible for our clients to trust us if we don't first start with the wholehearted intention to do well by them (see point #3)

Consistency
Consistency will build trust over time. We humans enjoy the stability that comes with regularity. It is difficult to trust and relax when we are on edge from not knowing what is coming next. When we do know what to expect, we get "in the groove". Consistency is comfortable. Think of all of the little things that you do the same way, just because it feels right. Brushing your teeth, crossing your arms, even the way you walk - it's all habitual. Clients will come to you not just because of the great work you do, but that you have a groove they can relate to, that is comfortable to them. They don't want things shaken up every time (or to come and listen to your drama). They want the stability and strength that rises from the Earth element. We can foster this consistency by creating little rituals - starting and ending your session the same way, greeting our clients the same way, finding out what they like and making sure it is there for them every time. Clients are attracted to the familiarity you create, if they aren't, they go elsewhere to find it.

Intention & Attention
These two go hand in hand. First you must start with the intention to build this safe place, then you must pay attention to the details to make it so. Make sure you ground yourself sufficiently before each and every session - clear your thoughts of your to-do lists and the guys who cut you off on the freeway on the way to the office - those aren't client-centered thoughts. Bring your whole attention to your client, because that is your role to play, the "safe space maker", so that they can heal the way they need to.

Remember the Process
Healing occurs in its own time. Let it take its course. Your job is simply to create a conducive environment. That doesn't mean that healing will take place, only that it can.

Playing It Safe

A key to remember is that healing only occurs when the client is ready. I have known many therapists (massage and otherwise) that have grown frustrated that a client doesn't seem to be making any progress. Well they never will until they're ready and I always say that

"You can't inflict healing, it must occur from within."

Creating a safe place is the first step in the process as the client's mind will never allow the healing to begin in an unsafe environment. Healing requires one to drop their defenses. If you can do this for your clients, you can bring to them the same feeling of overwhelming relief and joy as I felt as I passed into El Paso and touched home again. The funny thing (or not so funny) is that the stress of the trip has lingered and I still haven't been able to fully relax yet.

I think I'll head over to my safest massage therapist to find my peace of soul.

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